Amy Cuddy said, “don’t fake it till you make it, fake it till you become it.” You may not feel confident but if you follow these powerful body language habits, you’ll convey confidence. Do this enough, and you will become the confident person you appear to be.
Look more confident by standing still. When you fidget, you come off as nervous and not sure of yourself. I naturally fidget. It’s not because I feel insecure or have issues with self-esteem, I’ve just always been this way. I’m horrible at shaking my leg, even as I write this I notice I am doing it. It’s okay to fidget sometimes but not when you want to convey confidence. In those situations, be still and focused.
Your posture says a lot about you. Let’s face it, first impressions matter. Especially in the corporate world. Someone who slouches may come off as unsure of themselves or even lazy. You can be the hardest worker and the most confident person in the world, but your posture can easily contradict that. Always stand tall, even when you are alone. Standing tall and having great posture will not only convey confidence, but you’ll FEEL more confident as well.
Make Eye Contact
When speaking with someone, always look them in the eye. That’s a confidence habit you should always follow. When you look someone in the eye, it shows that you are confident and that you care about the conversation. Avoid staring, however. It’s okay to look away now and again. My trick is to look off to the side a bit and nod my head every once in a while. This shows that I am thinking about what the other person is saying. Then I make eye contact again. Avoid looking at the floor or looking away. You’ll look insecure or not interested in what is being said.
Watch Your Hands
People who are confident use their hands when speaking, but not too much. There is a proper balance. When I’m speaking and I want to convey confidence, I keep both of my hands up just below my chest with my fingers touching. When I want to say something with a bit of emphasis, then I animate my hands, but I avoid pointing. Pointing can come off as aggressive instead of confident. Use open palms whenever possible. After that, I return to my resting position of either touching or crossing my fingers in front of me.
Smile often. Smiling conveys confidence. You also look approachable. Now with that said, smile as appropriate. If you are speaking on something serious, you don’t want it to seem like you are joking about it. Just sprinkle some smiles in there when you can.
Consider using a power pose to convey confidence. It not only makes you look more confident but it makes you feel more confident. Even on a body chemical level. For more information on this, here is a Ted Talk video from Amy Cuddy. Very eye-opening. A definite MUST WATCH!
Perfect Your Handshake
It doesn’t matter how confident you actually are, if you have a dead fish handshake, you’ll come off as insecure. Work on having a firm handshake. Not too hard or forceful, but firm. Combo that with eye contact and you are golden.
Work on these powerful body language habits, and you’ll always convey confidence. Keep doing it, and one day the way you appear to be will turn into your reality inside as well.